Home funerals – my personal view
Home funeral experience
I have been reading a lot lately about home funerals. I have been giving it a lot of thought and many questions and thoughts came up. If you are new to this watch the bellow video by CBS news – this video feathers an interview about home funeral and green burial.
While reading about this topic I read a about a person that made a home funeral himself. I must admit that to start with- I thought that this whole business is a bit weird. In addition I thought that I would not do it – or won’t be able to have the mental courage and strength to do it. I must admit the thought of dealing with dead is quite daunting. My parents are starting to be elderly and the thought of having to deal with their bodies after death is not an easy one. But … as I continued to read that personal story (you can read it here – The Surprising Satisfaction of a Home Funeral), I started to get a different picture. Buy the way this is a very moving article – and if you are contemplating home funerals – you should read it! So after reading the story apart from feeling a very deep empathy to the author – I got fairly convinced that home funeral is much more natural than using the services of a funeral home – and it is defiantly much cheaper.
Home Funeral Sermons – Starting to get convinced…
I am staring to get convinced now that dealing with the dead – washing them, putting some lavender oil on their skin (apparently this is an old tradition)– and generally spending some time with them is a healthy and natural thing. Someone that was extremely close to me died about 25 years ago in accident. I never got to say good bye properly – and I am not sure why; but I did not want to see the body as well. I guess that I was terrified of the whole thing – so maybe not seeing the dead body was a way of trying to ignore it in some way like it did not happen. The whole time before the funeral I was really calm – and I kept saying things like – well death is part of life, it can happen to everyone and everything that can I could think of that would shade a positive light on this horrible accident. When I finally arrived to the funeral I broke, I started crying really hard and just could not stop. Well so what it my point? After reading about home funerals, plus reading some extremely moving personal stories I believe that with such experience I would have a better chance of accepting and realizing the fact that someone that was so dear to me passed away.
Going back in time – Funeral Sermons …
My 1st reaction when someone dear to me died was shock and I survived by putting a huge mental wall around me – this wall stayed with me for many years after that. I can never know – but as I read the articles about home funerals I feel like I want to go back in time – and have a chance to do it properly without running away. So these reading were an inspiration to me and it made me look again at a very sad personal story from a different angle. I do not know why we try so hard to ignore death and not think about it – very sadly it will happen to all of us. I am wandering we are actually so afraid of death? Well this is huge topic – I am going to try a write a post about it – I think that it will make me live better if I will understand it.